Feel It to Heal It

​I don’t know about you, but I’ve been feeling all the emotions with this full moon…
 
As you know, women’s bodies are intrinsically connected to the ebb and flow of the moon. Many women either bleed with the new moon or full moon when they’re not on birth control and we often tend to feel naturally more emotional around the full moon. This just goes to show we can try to escape nature (especially on those sub zero days!) but nature cannot escape us.
 
This full moon may have you feeling more tender and emotional than usual. That can lead you to feel overwhelmed or like you’re spiraling out of control. You may notice obsessive thoughts about challenging things you’re going through in your personal life or find it more difficult to sit back and enjoy the blessings you already have in your life.
 
As an acupuncturist specializing in fertility and women’s health, I have intimate conversations with my patients about their deepest pains and their greatest joys. A theme that’s been coming up a lot lately is dealing with the grief of a family not coming as easily as you had envisioned it. Many of us are “type A” perfectionists who like to plan out every detail. When you’ve always had a plan and been able to achieve your goals through hard work and persistence, it can be absolutely devastating to realize starting a family doesn’t necessarily follow those same rules.
 
Let me be brutally honest for a minute. Dealing with fertility struggles or miscarriages absolutely sucks and is completely unfair. There is NOTHING that you did, didn’t do, ate, didn’t eat, etc. that made you ‘deserve’ this. You are not fulfilling some crappy karma, you didn’t do anything wrong and it’s not your fault. Bottom line, sometimes life serves you a hard pill to swallow. You may feel like you’ll never get through it, but you will. Not only will you get through it, but you’ll be a stronger, more compassionate human being who’ll know how to hold space for someone else who really needs it one day. Ultimately, life is constantly shifting and changing and nothing last forever. Sometimes heartbreaking things happen that are simply out of your control.
 
Sometimes all you can do is keep showing up for yourself. You are stronger than you think. I promise.

Here are a few things you can do to support yourself if you are struggling:

1. Just like the ebb and flow of the moon or yin and yang, your energy and emotions are in constant state of change. Remember that neither your highs nor lows will last forever. This is a difficult time that will pass eventually.
   
   
2. Feel it to heal it, darling. I want to remind you that it’s okay to feel deep grief and sadness. It’s okay to feel angry and jealous. It’s okay to let the tears fall and the screams out. If you give these difficult emotions the time and acknowledgement they need, you make room for the happiness and contentment that’s waiting to take their place.
   
   
3. Care for yourself again and again. Get more sleep, eat healthy, nourishing foods throughout the day, splurge on that cake or glass of wine you’ve been wanting, get a massage, get acupuncture, cry your heart out to your dearest friend…or to me! I’m always here for you :)

 
As always, take what works and leave the rest. These are the things that I come back to time and time again. You may have your own tips and tricks. And if you do, I’d love to hear what they are.
 
Remember: Life is a journey and we’re all in it together. You’re not alone. It is my pleasure and honor to be on this journey with you.
 
I hope I see you soon for a needle nap. :)
 
Sending you love and light,
 
Meghan